Green Again

Relationships are like traffic lights. Before I entered university, I never heard about this analogy, now that I have, things seem a lot clearer.

Recently, a large number of my friends returned to the green realm, some have turned red and others stuck in the limbo.

But there are more to traffic lights than just colours. They regulate the flow of people and in this case, what they should do with their feelings. If one is to drive without heeding their warnings, there are bound to be severe consequences.

Red. Taken.If you are thinking of dashing across a red light, don't even think about it. Although you may come across a red light in the dead of the night,and crossing the line may seem like the reasonable thing to do, there will always be consequences.

You'll never know if there is a motorist around, or perhaps a camera watching your actions silently, waiting to expose you to the world.

Amber. Yellow, the universal colour of caution. Amber may mean two things; it is in the phase of turning Red from Green, or Green from Red. Many facebook users will relate this to the 'It's complicated' status.

The truth is that it means a lot more than just ambiguity. When you come across an amber light,most will choose to stop. some will choose to make a dash.

The point of amber being there as a transition, is not to proclaim he/she will be green( or red) soon. It means what its supposed to mean. Caution. Amber indicates that this is a stage of change and transistion. It also indicates that one should excercise utmost caution when approaching this sign.

(I personally, however, see no need for such a classification. things are either red or green. I blame this on my low level of personal constructs.)

Finally, GREEN. Green means go. You may proceed on with this road. It doesnt mean, you must take this road. Green may not be the best road to your destination... but HEY! You can take it for now.

Many see green as a sad sign, other see it as freedom. I am neutral about the whole issue as it is a matter of personal choice.

Being in a relationship isn't a result of circumstances, it is a result of many recurring occasions and choices that results in the eventual decision to be together. Like my previous analogy, its taking a roadtrip.

There are many paths with many traffic lights. Some will choose to dash from lane to lane, trying to make it for the Green lights. Some will choose wait patiently for the Red to turn Green. Some will try their luck with an Amber or even a Red. They ought to be fined.

Others... (like my very very very hot and available roomie) will park his car and take his time with the street directory before making his decision. He has been reading it for 22 years However, we should take note. In the journey of life, we can observe the flashing lights as much as we want, but there is no guarantee where each path ends.

Things may not always turn out the way we envisioned them to be. Very often, we find not only the paths that we take changing, but ourselves as well.

Reaching the dead end of the road doesn't mean that your journey is wasted and over. Mark it down in your street directory, park your car or go the gas station if you must. The journey is far from over.